I Loved My Work—But My Family Needed Me Too

There was a time when hospice work completely engulfed me.

I cared deeply for my patients and families, and before long, hospice nursing had become more than my job—it had become part of my identity.

I loved the work. I still do.

But while I was pouring so much of myself into caring for others, my own family needed me too.

My husband.

My children.

When my caseload climbed into the twenties, I often felt torn between being a devoted hospice nurse and being present for the people waiting for me at home.

There were many evenings when I was still charting long after I walked through my front door. At the time, I thought that was simply part of being a dedicated nurse.

Looking back, I see it differently.

One practical skill changed everything for me:

Learn to complete as much of your charting as possible during the workday.

Chart in your patients’ homes when appropriate. Chart in your car before driving away. Stop at a library, coffee shop, or another quiet place if needed. Find a system that works for you.

The more documentation you complete before you get home, the more protected your evenings become.

And those evening hours matter.

They are where life happens.

Family dinners.

Conversations.

Laughter.

Quiet moments.

Ordinary memories that someday become precious.

I shared more about this experience in my book Sunset Angels because I believe this is one of the most important lessons a hospice nurse can learn:

Love your family with the same intentionality you give to your patients and their loved ones.

Your work will always be there.

But your children grow up.

Your spouse grows older beside you.

Time keeps moving quietly forward.

Hospice has taught me that time is precious. Ironically, that was a lesson I sometimes forgot to apply to my own life.

As hospice nurses, we spend our days helping others through some of life’s most precious moments. Don’t forget to be present for your own. Don’t miss your own life while helping others through theirs.

Affirmation

I can be deeply devoted to my patients while still protecting time for the people I love most.

Gentle Self-Care Tip

Before ending your workday, take five minutes to intentionally transition out of “nurse mode.”

Sit quietly in your car. Take a few slow breaths. Put your phone away if possible.

Then remind yourself:

“My family deserves my presence too.”

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